My parents separated when I was seven, and their divorce was final by the time I was eleven. I didn’t have a strong relationship with my father before the divorce and afterwards I barely saw him at all, eventually creating an almost 20 year gap. In 2001 I faced my own divorce with our three-year-old son in the middle. My biggest concern was the effect this would have on him and our relationship. I vowed never to let him feel the vacuum I did.
Since then, I’ve remarried, had a daughter, and he now lives 50 miles away. Every other weekend, minus the driving and sleeping, we do what we can with roughly 28 hours. With no personal history to pull from, the father-son relationship is new to both of us. Alternating Weekends is an ongoing project, an outlet to identify and explore our dynamic and the connections I missed as a son.